Feliz Dia de Reyes or Feast of the Three Kings!
On January 6, most of the Hispanic world celebrates El Dia De Reyes, the Epiphany. We remember the day when the three wise men or Magi followed the star to Bethlehem to see the baby Jesus, bearing their gifts of gold, frankincense and myrrh. This is Epiphany on the church calendar, the 12th day after Christmas, also remembering when the Magi arrived bearing gifts for baby Jesus.
January 6th really marks the end of the Christmas season in Mexico. People start to head back to school and work after having spent time with family and friends during the past few weeks. Mexican Christmas tradition generally calls for gifts to be exchanged on Dia de Reyes instead of on Christmas day, but it’s my impression that you see gifts being exchanged on Christmas day more and more often, with the traditions of Santa and Christmas trees becoming more popular.
Growing up, my family always celebrated three kings day. The three kings would pass by our home on their way back from visiting baby Jesus in Bethlehem and, if we had been good, leave our shoes that had been left by the front door filled with candy and perhaps small treats. My siblings and I ALWAYS made sure to leave our biggest shoes out by the door, for more treat space!
I grew up in a predominately Mexican community on the south side of Chicago, so I knew many people who celebrated this day. Yes, it was not as exciting as Christmas and Santa bringing us the “big” gifts, but I did look forward to waking up on January 6th and seeing what had been left behind in my shoe by the Magi! As my siblings and I grew up, the tradition of celebrating this day became less important to me, maybe because I stopped believing in the Magi and I focused more on the festivities around Christmas. However, now that I have small children of my own I want to make sure that my they celebrate this Feast. They are likely not to learn too much about it from their school or friends, so it’s up to me. My husband is not Latino, but he appreciates our family celebrating my cultural traditions and is on board to celebrate as a family.
If you celebrate today, I hope that it’s a great day, bringing back some wonderful childhood memories. These sites have good explanations on the traditions and history around today’s Dia de Reyes.
At Vidacoco, we always talk about the importance of passing down traditions to our children. The Christmas season is a wonderful time to practice sharing the beautiful customs and memories that we remember from our childhood or to make new ones with our families and friends.
It seems like the past few weeks, Christmas traditions have often been a topic of discussion among my friends, at mommy and me classes, and it keeps coming across online and television. It’s especially nice to hear about the many ways that this season is celebrated in the homes of those that I know, often combining new and older traditions.
We would all love to buy gifts for our family and friends without considering (and sticking to) a budget, but alas, budgeting is a must, otherwise the joys of the Christmas season can be hard to enjoy.
After all, you don’t want to be paying for your Christmas indulgences well into the following year, but you don’t have to be a scrooge either. Here some easy tips to help you get something special for everyone on your “been good” list this year without going broke!
1Establish an Overall Budget
It is very important that you have an overall budget in place prior to beginning your Christmas shopping. This way, you are less likely to end up overspending and regretting any shopping debt. When considering your budget, keep these things in mind:
- How much did I spend last year? How did I feel about that amount?
- Consider what you already have that can be reused. Do you really need new decorations or can you simply update a few key items?
- Make a complete list of everything you need to buy this season.
- Factor in the “extras” – the ribbon, gift tags, stocking stuffers, tape, greeting cards, and party supplies all add up!
- Make sure to leave a small safety net for unexpected expenses.
- Consider saving for your shopping with anticipation.
- Try saving throughout the year so you don’t feel the financial burden of the season in a few short weeks or get tempted to use credit cards. Many people like to shop throughout the year too, buying gifts when they find a great deal.
- The smart folks over at Practicalmoneyskills.com suggest that you spend only 1.5% of you annual income on your Christmas budget. That means that if your family income is $40,000 year you can allocate $600 for your budget; with a $50,000 income, $750; with a $75,000 income, $1,125.
- Remember that the hard part is not in making your budget, but sticking to it!
2Make a Gift List, and Check It Twice
Decide whom you want or need to buy gifts for and how much you will spend on each person on your list, keeping your overall bottom line in mind. Without a gift list, we end up spending money on people we really don’t need to buy for or want to buy for – it’s ok to not buy everyone a gift.
- When deciding how much to spend on each person, use personal judgment, but stick to your pre-determined amount once out shopping.
- It’s ok to discuss gift expectations with family members and close friends. If you can’t or don’t want to spend as much as you have in past years on gifts, let those close to you know that you would like to scale back.
- This way you won’t find yourself giving a small gift to someone and feeling awkward that they gifted you something expensive.
- Instead of buying each child in your extended family a gift, consider buying the family one gift they can all enjoy, like a yearly membership to their local zoo or children’s museum. If the children are close in age, they may enjoy one larger gift to share, like a movie theater gift card.
- Keep non-family and friend gifts to a minimum. For your co-workers and some groups of friends, consider organizing a gift exchange with a price limit. Then you only have to get one gift instead of a few. If your co-workers are simply acquaintances, then make or pick up your favorite edible holiday treat to share with the group.
3Shop On Your Time
While some of us may enjoy the thrill of getting all our Christmas shopping done in one big mall trip, it’s wiser to spread your shopping over a period time.
- Consider that retail stores tend to hold sales on product categories. So, electronics may be cheaper one week versus home goods the following week. By spreading your shopping over time you can keep an eye put for great sales!
- Giving yourself more time to shop will allow you to take advantage of any layaway plans at many popular stores. You can skip using your credit card and make smaller cash or debit card payments for an item until it’s paid off and you can take it home.
- But don’t procrastinate! You will more stressed out, anxious and overspend it you do.
- It’s better to shop alone than with a group of people. There is no pressure to outdo each other on gifts purchased, you are on your own schedule and won’t be pressured to buy unnecessary gifts.
- It’s ok to shop AFTER Christmas. Are you going to see relatives or friends after Christmas? Then why not wait to hit the great after Christmas sales for their gifts? The Christmas season doesn’t necessarily end on the 25th; after all, in the Latino community it’s a common tradition to celebrate the season until The Feast of the Three Kings on January 6th!
4Leave The Plastic At Home
Make it your motto to not go into debt this Christmas season. It’s safe to say that the majority of us have been watching how much we spend more closely the past few years, but the Christmas season is an easy temptation to blow off budgets and say “just charge it.”
- Remember to use your credit card as least as possible or not all. You may regret that credit card bill come January!
- Use cash if you can to pay for gifts – it helps keep you on budget and reminds you how much you have actually spent. Spending $50 on a gift versus $100 when you use a credit feels almost the same, but if you pay with cash or your debit card you will notice the price difference immediately
- Try taking out ONLY the cash that you need for a shopping trip from the ATM. When it’s gone, you know that you’re done.
5Empower Yourself - Resist Impulse Buying
For many of us, this is one of the hardest things to do! Have a plan on what you want to buy before you hit the mall or your favorite store and stick to it. Remember a few rules:
- As cute as the cheap stocking stuffers at the check out counter may be, those purchases add up!
- Stores are designed so that you leave your hard earned money at the store, not in your wallet. Remind yourself that stores want you to buy that one extra and unplanned item that will add to your budget and their profit!
- Remember your budget for each person or item on our list and stick to it, no matter how much better a more expensive gift or item may seem.
6Give Warmly, Not Opulently
Think about how many Christmas gifts you’ve received that you didn’t use or even like. We can all benefit from the “less is more” motto when it comes to gift giving. Try these tips when planning your gift list:
- Gift Exchanges are great! If you can, make a no gifts for adults rule and just buy presents for the little believers. If you want to include adults, then try drawing names from a hat and then every adult can receive just one nice gift.
Do you have a talent or skill that you can share? Maybe you can offer your family member or friend an hour’s worth of your time/trade/talent.
- Encourage the teenagers in your life to give of their talents and time too – maybe they can mow their grandparents or neighbor’s lawn? Can they babysit for a new mom in the family that lives nearby or offer to run some errands for an older family member?
- DIY gifts are great. How about making a DVD with your favorite Christmas music? All you need are the appropriate blank CDs, labels and downloaded music. Last year, my daughters and I made small gift packages of handmade soaps and stationary. The total cost for the materials for all 10 gifts, including wrapping supplies, was less than $80. These types of gifts are great for children’s teachers, car pool friends and even colleagues.
7Keep Décor Simple
While many of us would love for our homes to look like the picture perfect decorated ones in magazines this Christmas season, remember that you can keep your decorations simple and tasteful without spending a fortune. Try a few of our tips:
- A simple pinecone arrangement spray painted with very inexpensive gold paint from the craft store and arranged on a mantle is perfect or use it as stylish centerpiece.
- A metallic sash tied around your chairs with simple accent accessories on your dining room table makes for a chic and lovely look.
- Don’t forget the kids - they tend to love doing arts and crafts and that’s a great and simple way to add seasonal flare to your home.
- After the Christmas season, store your decorative items for next year in recycled plastic containers over cardboard boxes. They will help your decorations safe and you won’t have to buy more decorations next year.
8Finally, Avoid Easy Money Drainers
- Just say “no thank you” when the cashier asks you “Would you like to save an extra x% today by signing up for our store credit card?” Store credit cards usually have higher rates than other credit cards and they all tend to have strict late fees.
- Remember to be Internet savvy, compare prices and look for coupons on sites like Bizrate and CouponCabin. A simple Google search for those “promo codes” at checkout time can save you a few dollars.
- Most online orders will tag on extra shipping charges after a certain date, so place your order accordingly.
- Before you place your Christmas card order, think about how many you are ordering. Do you really that many? Take some time to organize and update your address list this season so you know how many cards to buy, most of us buy too many and they end up getting tossed in the garage. Choose standard-sized envelopes for your cards, the unique sizes will require extra postage.
- Business related clients and eco-conscious friends might appreciate an e-card rather than a card in the mail.
- Always check if a store offers complimentary gift-wrapping, you’ll be surprised how much you can save!